2 things EVERY girl needs: High Heels & High Standards

High standards keep you from low-quality experiences, keep you less accessible which increases your desirability, and then in return make you happier which positively impacts every other aspect of your life. 

& heels make your a** look good, but please know how to walk, otherwise, it ruins the point. . but at the same time, we all have to stumble before we can strut lol.

There is almost nothing more unattractive than a woman who doesn't know her worth. You've heard people say that confidence is sexy, and that's because it is. Cockiness on the other hand is a little unattractive depending on the person and their approach, but either way, it's better to be cocky and sure of yourself than a doubtful doormat. 

If you've read or heard any dating tips for a woman to attract a man, I'm sure you've heard that men like a pursuit.. and when you don't have any standards; there is no pursuit!! Now, I understand it's challenging because you'll have to reject and/or dump a lot of potential suitors but babygirl... I promise you that working towards your goals in peace with a good mindset towards men since they only give you high-quality experiences is much better than having to work towards your goals with a man who makes you cry and gives you nothing to show for it!

Sadly, the truth is, everyone in life is going to break your heart at some point and in some way... in some ways worse than others, so you have to find a man that you're willing to hurt for while still making sure you have your non-negotiables that you're not willing to put up with... for any reason. 

Because remember!!! People will treat you how you teach them to treat you! 

A lot of men who don't meet your standards will try to negotiate your standards and convince you that you don't deserve to have them through threats of loneliness or bringing up shortcomings that you may or may not have... they might even make some up... BUT do not let this persuade you! 

Shoot! These might even be men in your family or male friends of yours who wouldn't/ couldn't/ and won't ever meet those standards that will try to talk you out of it!!! Like, don't they want the best for you? It could also even be your homegirls who don't feel like you can do better! But.. you can't give people who don't want to see a vision, your sight. 

I remember talking about how one day I was gonna be a lady in the prettiest heels when I was a preteen with one of the boys from my neighborhood and then this boy had the nerve to always give me a hard time about wanting more in life... but that's just because he knew that what I wanted could never be with him!

Anyway... obvi we never talked/dated because even as a girl I knew better, although he lied on me like these little boys & even sometimes men will do to pretty girls by saying we did talk, but at the end of the day. . . 1. Never Happened 2. Never gonna happen

Now, as a woman, if I have a man- my man pays all my bills, and as a single woman my phone is filled with random Apple pays by the guys who are interested in me and my ex STILL pays my bills!! (He doesn't want to let this kitty cat go lol)... When I go to dinner a guy will ask to pay for my meal and then he'll send me money, he'll ask to take me shopping and then he'll send me money, and I guess he'll mainly send me money because he likes me and wants me. That's what I like too...but why wouldn't I? That's princess treatment.

The best thing about this modern-day dowry is that every boyfriend I've ever had has put me in a better position than I was before, but if I've ever broken my standards... I have been set back so that's why this is important for you to know to have standards.. so you don't let a man set you back! 

I did that once and it was a HUGE mistake! Luckily, I woke up to the fact that POTENTIAL IS NOT REALITY! 

... anyway, a dowry is a LARGE fortune given to women for marriage because the husband benefits from having a wife just like how boyfriends benefit from having a girlfriend and that's why we're also given forms of dowries from allowances/shopping sprees/ and etc. 

Now the guys who don't have true traditional values of taking care of women hate me... and that's okay, because AGAIN.... High-quality standards save and protect you from low-quality experiences! &.. I don't want a man like that!

My man always treats me like a princess and makes me better in this world and that's why I always treat my man like a King and try to make him better in however way I can. . . because once you get a man like that, know how to keep him. . . but also don't be afraid to throw him back if he is abusive/neglectful/cheating, because again and for the last time, High standards keep you for low-quality experiences! Plus it's soooo easy to want to treat him right when he treats you right!!

& throwing him back gives him an opportunity as well to come back with his act right. 

(as long as it wasn't abusive/cheating/a non-negotiable)

Not throwing him back will be a signal to him that you agree with him that you're not worth high-quality experiences!! So, do not be afraid to move on! . . . and, hopefully by the time he comes back he will have lost his b*tch and you'll be with your new bae snuggled up and being treated like the Queen you truly are! You pretty b*tch! 

Xoxo ily!

DISCLAIMER: getting what you want may require hard work & leveling up, charge it to the game!